Labor Of Love

I have an idea for a new reality series. It’s called “Labor Of Love.” It will chronicle the lives of men who want to “have it all.”

This show will follow men in their thirties who fight and scrape their way to corporate success and have a great time on the New York City dating scene. The problem is they don’t find suitable women who they feel they can marry and settle down with. They use dating apps to meet all kinds of women. They sometimes find it even easier to just hang out and meet women face to face at bars, nightclubs and out in the general public. They are confident, mature, interesting, well-read, bright, thoughtful, adventurous men but can’t seem to meet “the one!”

Well, what do they do? They feel that since they aren’t getting any younger, they decide to stay single. The twist is that they want to raise a child on their own. They look for women who will either be the one who will give birth to ther child, through insemination, or they will adopt a beautiful baby on their own.

These men will finally be able to raise a family. They will also continue to date from time to time if they choose to – just for the fun of it! They don’t see the need to get married or have anyone move in with them. They got this! They feel empowered knowing there is support for single parents, especially these single dads.

It seems as if our society has noticed how men’s dreams have evolved over time from the one-time ideal of having a good job, a big house, a nice relationship and then kids. Often having a family is part of this dream, but for more and more men, it’s a good job, the big house and not the other two. Settling down and having kids used to be the natural progression, but for those who have completed the first two of the four-step dream, maybe it’s just some fun on the side and raising kids on their own. Maybe this is the path for the modern man!

This show will explore this phenomenon deeper and see what life is like for men who want to “have it all.”

Sounds interesting doesn’t it? Or does it sound alarming?

Well, what if it were a show with the exact opposite?

 

 

Choosing single parenthood isn’t in the best interests of children. I feel it is selfish and not the ideal way to raise our offspring. Growing up without a father does serious and lasting damage to both boys and girls.

– Children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor. In 2011, 12 percent of children in married-couple families were living in poverty, compared to 44 percent of children in mother-only families.

Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Children’s Living Arrangements and Characteristics: March 2011, Table C8. Washington D.C.: 2011.

– The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services states, “Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse.”

Source: U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. National Center for Health Statistics. Survey on Child Health. Washington, DC, 1993.

– A study of 1,977 children age 3 and older living with a residential father or father figure found that children living with married biological parents had significantly fewer externalizing and internalizing behavioral problems than children living with at least one non-biological parent.

Source: Hofferth, S. L. (2006). Residential father family type and child well-being: investment versus selection. Demography, 43, 53-78.

 

Don’t take my word for it, these are the words of former President Barack Obama that he spoke in 2008:

“We know the statistics – that children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of schools and twenty times more likely to end up in prison. They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home, or become teenage parents themselves. And the foundations of our community are weaker because of it.”

“Yes, we need more cops on the street. Yes, we need fewer guns in the hands of people who shouldn’t have them. Yes, we need more money for our schools, and more outstanding teachers in the classroom, and more afterschool programs for our children. Yes, we need more jobs and more job training and more opportunity in our communities.”

“But we also need families to raise our children. We need fathers to realize that responsibility does not end at conception. We need them to realize that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child – it’s the courage to raise one.”

“We need to help all the mothers out there who are raising these kids by themselves; the mothers who drop them off at school, go to work, pick up them up in the afternoon, work another shift, get dinner, make lunches, pay the bills, fix the house, and all the other things it takes both parents to do. So many of these women are doing a heroic job, but they need support. They need another parent. Their children need another parent. That’s what keeps their foundation strong. It’s what keeps the foundation of our country strong.”

 

 

There is a world of information about fatherless children. Why would anyone find a show about choosing single parenthood worthy of rewarding?

Well, there is one. it’s called Labor Of love and its about women making this really ill-informed choice. I wanted to see what people’s reaction to a man choosing this path as a opposed to a woman. It always seems great when women do it but eyebrows are raised if a man were to choose the same path.

Maybe it’s time to re-think the choice of single parenthood and actually producing more garbage like THIS:

http://deadline.com/2017/08/labor-of-love-reality-series-sperm-donor-partner-fox-1202152075/#comments

 

Betsy DeVos Changing the Rules On Title IX Campus Sex Misconduct Enforcement

“On campuses throughout the country, I’ve seen firsthand how colleges and universities are wrongfully implementing their own kangaroo courts to adjudicate accusations of sexual misconduct and destroying the lives of wrongfully accused male students,” Miltenberg said. “Title IX was meant to be a tool for fairness, not a means for colleges and universities to micromanage students’ sex lives.”

Read more about Title IX here:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/grade-point/wp/2017/09/07/protesters-gather-anticipating-devos-speech-on-campus-sexual-assault/?utm_term=.fec29434320d

Cultural Appropriation

 

Is is cultural appropriation for Audra McDonald or Kathleen Battle to sing Opera? Living Colour to play metal music? Teena Marie to sing and rap in Square Biz? Darius Rucker to sing country? Tower Of Power to play funk? Eminem to be one of the greatest rappers of all time? What about a Hasidic Jew being a reggae star?

Oh, the college left.

They will make up the dumbest things. Mansplaining, cultural appropriation, safe spaces, trigger warnings…the list goes on and on.

I recently had a long email chat with a vegan activist who is part of an organization that harasses people and businesses here in Berkeley. Their group tries to get people to stop being cruel in any way to any animal. It was a lively discussion but due to my use of the Socratic Method and ability to reason, this person eventually lashed out in anger and used the tried and true tactic of name calling when their arguments fell flat.

It happens every time I engage with people like them. Berkeley is the perfect place to see these people face to face and see how they really are utopian idealists. They don’t live in the real world.

I suggest a few things to people who think like the ultra-liberal-left; step off that college campus and live with the rest of humanity. Live a few years by yourself and pay a few bills in your own. Tell me how many safe spaces there are when you walk down a street by yourself. Womansplain to me how it isn’t incredibly sexist and demeaning when you demand men need to be taught how NOT to rape. Where are your trigger warnings before the 6 o’clock local news?

Oh, and I better not catch you rapping at all if you are white…unless you can rap like Eminem or Teena Marie.

 

I haven’t watched MTV’s annual Video Music Awards since Bill Clinton was president. I was wearing a plastic choker and Alanis Morissette won for “Ironic.” But I wish I had tuned in this Sunday night. The award show was a veritable orgy — not of sex, but of cultural appropriation.

 

Three Cheers for Cultural Appropriation
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/30/opinion/cultural-appropriation.html

 

Group-On!

I finally got the chance to spend time with my kids on Monday.

It’s been a month since I last saw them. Unfortunately, I still have two more months to go after today before I see them again.

I’ve been out of town for the past two months and I have really missed spending my days with them.

It’s not easy to be away from your offspring for such and extended period. At least, it’s not easy for me.

14 1/2 years of being a stay at home parent forms a tight bond.

And I mean…tight. We are close.

Where there is a will (and some American Express points for airline tickets) there is a way. I flew them and my ex-wife out to CA so they could see some family out here and I could spend the day with my kids.

We had a great time in Sacramento and the three of us went bowling. It’s such a great activity and is always a good time.

I’m glad someone invented Groupon. It saved me a few dollars and we enjoyed the little time we could spend together before school starts back in New York.

I won the first game but my little man came back in-game two and took the top prize!

— at Country Club Lanes.

 

 

Why Wasn’t She Shot?

For every Antoine Dodson telling folks to “hide yo kids, hide yo wife…” and Sweet Brown saying “oh lord Jesus there a fire” on the local news somewhere down south, there are dozens of these that never get autotune remixes.

Why not make a nice country tune from this incident?

And why isn’t her car riddled with bullet holes?

Hmmmmmmmm

“Yo ass gon’ t-jail!”