Month: March 2014

The Independent Thinker

I won’t react to something just because I’m supposed to, because I’m an African-American,” he said. “That argument doesn’t make any sense to me. So we want to advance as a society and a culture, but, say, if something happens…

Obama Cares

This is someone off topic for me since my blog is dedicated towards fatherhood and issues surrounding men and boys in our new millennium…but…I have some thoughts. So I heard 30 million were supposedly uninsured a few years ago. 5…

LEADING WOMEN FOR SHARED PARENTING

A growing number of children are being raised without the benefit of meaningful engagement with both parents. As contemporary research conclusively demonstrates, a child who effectively loses one of his or her parents through a custody decision, usually the father,…

The thoughtless slave

I have found that, to make a contented slave, it is necessary to make a thoughtless one. It is necessary to darken his moral and mental vision, and, as far as possible, to annihilate the power of reason. He must…

Rape Culture Myth

Barbara Kay knocks it out the park in this piece ‘Rape culture’ fanatics don’t know what a culture is’. Here is an excerpt: Indeed, the more closely one follows the increasingly hysterical volleys of rhetorical fire back and forth on this issue,…

There Are No Good Men

Is there really a lack of good men in the dating pool or do some women overlook the ones that are already in existence? From what I’ve experienced, when many women who are dating meet a GOOD man, they either…

Preemptive Preparation

While recently sifting through the boxes of papers in my storage unit, I stumbled across a few of the documents I saved from my divorce. I now see how proactive and prepared I was. It is pretty amazing to see…

Instant Custody

If you knew that you would automatically get custody and not have to pay child support and/or alimony, would you be more likely to file for divorce if you were really unhappy in your marriage or relationship? Let me guess…

The Prenup

Is Gabrielle Union being unromantic or is this a wise move on her part?

Is she planning for a divorce or protecting her assets?

Is she being wise or selfish?

If a man does this, would you feel the same?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KBR5SAkvbcA&feature=youtu.be

 

 

 

Think Before You Act Out

If I go to the subway and start spray painting ads on the subway, is it legal?

Oops!

She must have forgotten this little law:

No person shall write, paint or draw any inscription, figure or mark or affix, attach or place by whatever means a sticker or decal of any type on any public or private building or other structure or any other real or personal property owned, operated or maintained by a public benefit corporation, the city of New York or any agency or instrumentality thereof or by any person, firm, or corporation, or any personal property maintained on a city street or other city-owned property pursuant to a franchise, concession or revocable consent granted by the city, unless the express permission of the owner or operator of the property has been obtained. a-1. For purposes of this section, “property of another” shall mean all property, including real property, that is not owned, rented, or leased by a person; provided that such term shall not include a location that serves as such person’s residence. a-2. For purposes of this section, “educational facility” shall mean any building affiliated with an institution that maintains a list of enrolled students and is used for educational purposes for more than twelve (12) hours per week for more than six (6) students. b. No person shall possess an aerosol spray paint can, broad tipped indelible marker or etching acid with the intent to violate the provisions of subdivision a of this section.

http://codes.lp.findlaw.com/nycode/ADC/10/1/10-11

After my bones dry up from playing drums, I hope my mind is still sharp. I would love to re-train the minds of college aged kids. Being a college professor sounds like fun.

So many kids think there is some utopian world ready to be entered when they graduate. Man oh man are they in for a rude awakening. The “real world” my parents told me about? It’s wonderful yet, complex and full of grey area. Use that grey matter in your skill to effectively navigate through it and you’ll be ok.

I am starting with my two little ones – my kids. I want to try and keep their minds open to think through every scenario, make sure their minds stay open to new information, and to think before they act. Acting out of emotion kinda sucks. I’ve been there and learned my lessons. Fortunately, I stop before I act nowadays. It might have done her well to do the same. I’m sure central booking was not fun. But hey, knock yourself out if you want to deal with the police. I have better ways to deal with societal issues than deal with NY City’s finest.

 

The Birds & The Bees | Ep. 7 | Fatherhood

Bryan Cranston, Rainn Wilson, Kevin Bacon, Mike Meyers, Jerry Stahl, Tim Robbins, Phil Rosenthal, Joshua Malina, and Stephen Moyer discuss when to have “the talk” with your children.

About ‘Fatherhood’: Hank Azaria’s touching, humorous, and often enlightening journey from a man who is not even sure he wants to have kids, to a father going through the joys, trials and tribulations of being a dad.

Letting Go | Ep. 6 | Fatherhood

Hank Azaria asks friends Kevin Bacon, Mike Myers, and Bryan Cranston how to deal with separation anxiety as a parent

About ‘Fatherhood’: Hank Azaria’s touching, humorous, and often enlightening journey from a man who is not even sure he wants to have kids, to a father going through the joys, trials and tribulations of being a dad.

Being a Kid With Your Kid | Ep. 4 | Fatherhood

Hank Azaria gets to the bottom of the age-old question: Can you be a friend AND a parent?

About ‘Fatherhood’: Hank Azaria’s touching, humorous, and often enlightening journey from a man who is not even sure he wants to have kids, to a father going through the joys, trials and tribulations of being a dad.