Category: Fatherhood

Thoughts and Reflections

If you look through my blog you will see years of my thoughts. I have posted my thoughts on divorce, family court, college “rape,” male/female relationships and so much more. I started blogging a few years after my divorce as…

If Moms Were Treated Like Dads

I received 10 years of this treatment. I know EXACTLY what this feels like. It’s all good though.

I stopped being defensive after a certain point. Eventually, I learned how to just have fun with the moms at the playgrounds as they got to know me better and they later realized how much cooler I was than their husbands…especially when they found out my profession and how much I listen to them.

Ahhhh…the joys of parenting (as a single dad…with high levels of testosterone).

 

“The Boys Are With Bernie” – Gloria Steinem

Bill Maher spoke with iconic feminist Gloria Steinem tonight about a cause he thinks more feminists should care about: radical Islamic law. He brought up how horribly women are treated in the Muslim world and asked why it isn’t a bigger feminist issue. Steinem argued that it actually is, pointing to feminists in Muslim nations attempting to push reforms. She said that “all monotheism is a problem,” but Maher jumped in to say that Islamic nations are particularly horrible to women and bad on women’s rights.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scO9gIpR8BI

 

War on Boys

What ever happened to letting “boys be boys?” Take these two cases: In one, a seven-year-old boy was sent home for nibbling a Pop Tart into a gun. In another, a teacher was so alarmed by a picture drawn by a student (of a sword fight), that the boy’s parents were summoned in for a conference. In short, boys in America’s schools are routinely punished for being active, competitive, and restless. In other words, boys can no longer be boys. Christina Hoff Sommers, a scholar at the American Enterprise Institute, explains how we can change this.

My Nana

I took my kids to South Carolina to see my grandmother in 2011, 2013 and 2015. Three great road trips. We had a great time on our road trips and I’m glad we took a week out of each summer…

Mentoring

Mentoring- I should have done this a long time ago. I’m really enjoying the conversations I’m having with the kids who I spend time with every other week. I was turned on to the idea of being a mentor through…

Donald Trump – The Miley Cyrus of Politics

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If you haven’t figured it out by now, you must not know how people manipulate the press in our country.

It is pretty apparent to me that Donald Trump will say anything so that his name will appear in the news and he will stay at the top of the polls. This is the same tactic that people like Miley Cyrus used a few years ago when she was breaking free of the Hanna Montana image and trying to be cool and relevant. She said the most outrageous things and had some of the most outlandish performances so that she could be one of the trending topics on a regular basis. It’s all a game and I think that many people do not understand how it is played until long after the flavor of the day is an afterthought.

When you have dozens of channels to choose on cable from and thousands of artists to sift through on Itunes or Spotify, you just can’t be good and get a following. In today’s world, there must be something else that grabs your attention to separate you from the others. Some choose to be truly unique and have great songs and a really different look (like Sia) and get the attention in a positive manner. Others choose to resort to the things that attract negative attention simply because they are vulgar, overly sexual, repulsive and just flat out ridiculous. The music or talent level be dammed.

When you have what seems like 3,234 GOP candidates running for office, it seems like in order to pimp the media, you have to find a way to stand out. I don’t see why it is so hard to be unique with the pack of buffoons the GOP is allowing to stand up and represent their party, but hey, I guess making sense and having clear, reasonable policy positions isn’t good enough in 2016. With this many people running for the same office, it seems as if the easiest way to make yourself look different is to use the same techniques Miley used.

The next time you hear Donald Trump speak, he will talk about how he is leading in certain polls, how he is selling merchandise, the way he is trademarking this or that. He is a true salesman and is simply selling his brand. He has no intention of being president because he knows his rhetoric will not be able to stand up to any sort of scrutiny. He is bombastic because he knows that when he says outrageous things, he will have his brand being mentioned in every major media outlet in the world.

I think it’s interesting to watch the reactions of people after he opens up his mouth. Why do people say they are “scared” or they find him “scary”? I don’t get it. Scared of what? He has no way to effect public policy, he has no intention of being anywhere near local, state or national political office – and oh yeah, he will never, ever be president. He appeals to those who are generally not intelligent enough to see thorough his game. He is the ultimate pimp.

Enjoy the freak show for another couple of months. No need to be scared. He will go back to doing whatever he did prior to his presidential bid eventually. I guarantee it.

Bonding 

When I walk down the street with my daughter from time to time, she does something that I find very interesting. Instead of holding my hand like she used to as a little girl, she grabs the inside of my forearm as…

Liberal Logic

“In every American community there are varying shades of political opinion. One of the shadiest of these is the liberals. An outspoken group on many subjects, ten degrees to the left of center in good times, ten degrees to the…

#Equality

#Equality – A short film by Neel Kolhatkar
Starring:
Neel Kolhatkar
Caitlin Burley insta – cait.bonnie
Josh Wade

Written by Neel Kolhatkar
Directed by Neel Kolhatkar
Produced by Conceptional Media
Cinematography by Tim Mann
Edited by Adam Krowitz
Sound Design by Can Okan

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Vine: Neel Kolhatkar

Music: Darkest Child – Mysterious & Creepy Music (Kevin MacLeod)

Modern Educayshun

The follow up to #Equality, Modern Educayshun delves into the potential dangers of our increasingly reactionary culture bred by social media and political correctness. Written and Directed by Neel Kolhatkar Instagram & Twitter @neelkolhatkar Produced by Conceptional Media – https://www.facebook.com/Conceptional……

No rational reasons to oppose feminism? – By Jack V. Butler Jr.

No rational reasons to oppose feminism? – By Jack V. Butler Jr. – a comment found on Facebook.

This video and the explanations below are a few of the many, many reasons why I am 100% opposed to the ideology of modern feminism and everything that it represents.

Jack’s comment was written in response to this ridiculous video.

These women actually wonder why so few women want to be associated with a cult like theirs? Good grief:

 

No rational reasons to oppose feminism? – By Jack V. Butler Jr.

How about we start with the fact that some feminists really do advocate the systematic death (or at the very least, mass castration) of the entire male gender, and the mainstream, moderate, reasonable portions of feminism either make excuses for these women at worse, and simply ignore, tolerate them at best rather than speak out against these bigots?

How about the fact that the modern feminist movement has a history of marginalizing women of color, transwomen, poor women, and any woman who chooses to be a stay-at-home mom rather than seeking out a career outside the home?

How about the fact that it has been absolutely proven that feminist academics have purposely distorted data in order to meet the ideological ends of the movement? For example, one feminist sociologist who quoted a study on domestic abuse utterly ignored the studies findings that men were abused just as often by their female partners as the women studied were abused by their male partners. And this was only one person; there have been dozens of similar cases. By ignoring and covering up the truth regarding legitimate research in such a manipulative and cynical fashion, they not only have thrown doubt on the legitimacy of feminism, they’ve also dishonored themselves as scholars and scientists.

How about the fact that, even worse than the previous reason, on occasion feminist academics have simply fabricated studies whole out of the cloth. The best example is the “Superbowl Rape Day” myth that claimed that more women were raped and battered on Superbowl Sunday than on any other day of the year. When the facts of this myth were checked, it turned out that the “study” on which this myth was based was entirely fictional. No such study was ever concluded. In addition, when further investigated, it was found that the source of this myth was actually a feminist group in the Denver area, who apparently just made it up out of thin air.

How about the fact that feminists have purposefully impeded research studies that showed that feminist ideology had little to no relationship with reality? They did this by harassing researchers, making death threats to both the researchers and their families, organizing protests, lobbying to have research funding cut in areas the feminists did not approve, and otherwise make things difficult for the researchers. Studies into female perpetration of domestic violence and rape are particularly favorite targets for this sort of action.

How about the fact that, when they tried scaring off and interfering with the researchers mentioned in my last paragraph, and failed to keep the scientists from completing their study, they would then go into action to make sure the results of the study were either drowned out before it could reach mass media attention, or else was outright suppressed by legislation and public censorship?

How about the fact that feminists continue to spread myths and lies that even they know have been long shown to be false, despite the fact that they know damned well that what they are spreading is bullshit? I’m talking about things like the wage-gap myth, or the “only 2% of rape accusations are false” myth, or the “women only batter men in self-defense” myth, or the “rule of thumb” myth. They know that these things are utterly untrue and have been proven utterly untrue, but they spread these lies intentionally anyway because doing so helps the cause. Even when presented with conclusive evidence that they are promoting bullshit, feminists refuse to back down from it.

How about the fact that feminists discuss boys as if they were animals in need of training, but speak of girls as if they were precious gems that need to be protected? Girls are treasures, boys are a threat.

How about the fact that feminists abandon any pretense at fairness or equal treatment when it comes to the rule of law by advocating insane, discriminatory laws and practices that actively benefit women (and women only) and actively harm men (and only men). They have pushed for laws that utterly remove Constitutional protections and void due process for men accused of rape or domestic violence. (Note: not “convicted of rape or domestic violence”, accused.) They advocate for laws such as the Violence Against Women Act, which not only treats men in a prejudicial and discriminatory fashion, it ignores the fact that men are the majority victims of violent crime in the United States.

How about the fact feminists claim that their movement is both a “woman’s movement” and a “movement for gender equality” without any awareness of the inherent contradiction in those claims?

How about the fact that feminists claim that their movement is “the only equality movement we need,” but when pressed to address some male-oriented gender issues, refuse to do so because “men should create their own movement to address those problems.” That would be the same movement they previously said was unnecessary because feminism was “the only equality movement we need.”

How about the fact that, when men do go ahead and create their own movement to “address those problems”, the feminists immediately label such a movement as misogynist, hateful, and harmful to women?

How about the fact that feminists constantly equate an opposition to feminism with an opposition to women, when the truth is that “feminism” does not equate to “women”? (One is a political movement, one is a human demographic.)

How about the fact that feminists use obvious fallacy and bad logic to ignore any evidence presented that men are often just as oppressed in our modern society as women are, but in different areas and in different manners?

How about the fact that, most frequently, the response feminist give to honest criticism isn’t an honest reply, but rather a shaming tactic meant to silence the critic without having to deal with the points they bring up?

I don’t know… the more I think about it, the less I think feminism is salvageable. It may be time for “rational” feminists to abandon the movement to the fringe wackadoos and start something new that isn’t tainted by the sexist bullshit of the loud-mouth man-haters.

But I think I’ve shown that there are, in fact, rational reasons to oppose feminism.

And opposition to feminism isn’t misogyny. Its just opposition to feminism.

Angry feminist attacks Dr Umar Johnson in public

This interesting interaction between Dr Umar Johnson and a feminist in Kansas City was interesting to observe. It also gives us a lot to talk about when it comes to being able to draw a line between advocating for the black family vs. being anti-gay or homophobic.

The discussion is important for black people in terms of helping us to learn what role we as a community can and should play in the debate over women’s rights, gay rights and everything else. Rather than attacking the black community for not being in alignment with whites, it might be best for us to determine our own position.