How We Fail Our Boys

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I read “Men On Strike.” It is a well written book that ruffles a lot of feathers. Helen Smith nails many topics that people want to ignore. She puts things out there in the open for people to see.

I’m glad it was a woman who wrote the book because if it weren’t, all hell would break loose. It is funny how the author of this article calls her misogynistic even though she is a woman. Truly bizarre. It seems like people who use that word attempt to disarm those who expose inconsistencies and flaws in the radical feminist platform. It is silly and no longer works. The game is over.

The facts speak for themselves:

“For every 100 girls age 6 to 14 with a learning disability,” she writes, “160 boys have a learning disability … For every 100 females age 15 to 19 who commit suicide, 549 males in the same age range kill themselves … 100 percent of school shooters have been male … 70 percent of high school valedictorians are now female.”

The pendulum has swung too far in one direction. We need balance.

Read on:

Two new books—including the newest tome from the author of ‘Queen Bees and Wannabes’—explore why young men are falling behind in American culture.

‘Half a century after The Second Sex, Title IX, and The Feminine Mystique, have we reached a point where women have certain advantages over men? Earlier this summer, Helen Smith’s book Men on Strike tackled this subject with vigor, if not with rigor (the authors main sources were commenters on her blog, arguably a self-selecting group of Men’s Rights Activists —MRAs, as they call themselves—or sympathizers). Her main argument is that the power dynamic has shifted so much that it’s now women, not men, who control America. Men, therefore, have been reduced to impotent slobs, relegated to the basement or cuckolded and divorced while continuing to pay child support for a kid who isn’t theirs, or failing out of college through no fault of their own, or being falsely accused of rape by foolish women.

Wiseman strikes the perfect note in arguing for forging families and societies where we give boys “a language for talking about their worries and experiences like we do with girls.” This means paying attention to everything from your son’s “first Halloween costume with a six-pack sewn into it” to the way his friends call each other “gay” when they really mean stupid, immature, or weak.

Boys, Wiseman told me in an interview, “want strong friendships, and they want to be able to navigate bad things that happen: there are betrayals, there are rejections, there are huge disappointments, and boys don’t know how to talk about it, and they don’t even think, in some ways, they have the right to talk about it. Because of that, they get to a place where they just push it down.” It’s time to start helping with this navigation, so that boys can grow up to be emotionally healthy men—and so that they don’t later blame their problems on feminism.’

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