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Campus Rape Policies Get a New Look as the Accused Get DeVos’s Ear

It’s time to get rid of that ridiculous Title IX nonsense that Obama implemented in 2011.

That Dear Colleague guidance that changed the goal posts and allowed colleges the ability to set up kangaroo courts to deal with alleged CRIMINAL BEHAVIOR, has to be changed. It just has to.
The slogans that came from this guidance “teach men not to rape,” “rape culture,” “1 in 4,” all stemmed from the Title IX hysteria from 2011.

If there is criminal behavior on college campuses or anywhere else, the police must be involved. Not college administrators.

 
Let me just say cases like Duke Lacrosse, Rolling Stone/UVA, Paul Nunsenger and the “Mattress Girl” at Columbia University and dozens of other incidents, made my blood boil.

 

“Betsy DeVos’s Education Department is re-evaluating the get-tough policies on campus sexual assault that were enforced by the Obama administration.”

Read more here:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/mobile.nytimes.com/2017/07/12/us/politics/campus-rape-betsy-devos-title-iv-education-trump-candice-jackson.amp.html

After divorce, shared parenting is best for children’s health, development

We now have more than 50 studies of joint physical custody. Using different methods, and examining families in the United States and abroad, the results are encouraging: children who spend at least 35 percent time with each parent, rather than live with one and visit the other, have better relationships with their fathers and mothers and do better academically, socially, and psychologically. As will be described next week at the International Conference on Shared Parenting in Boston, they get better grades; are less likely to smoke, get drunk, and use drugs; and are less susceptible to anxiety, depression, and stress-related illnesses.

Read the entire piece HERE: https://www.statnews.com/2017/05/26/divorce-shared-parenting-children-health/

Bill, O’Reilly/Cosby/Clinton

So………Bill Cosby is villified and people like this idiot are making $18,000,000 a year.

Tell me, who has a legacy worth saving? A legendary comedian who influenced thousands of others, a man who revolutionized the way black images are shown in TV and film, a man who gave millions to several institutions of higher learning…or this dude?

Both apparently have issues with “sexual assault/harassment” (just like Slick Willie).

Why the double and triple standards?

I want to see Gloria Allred and people in her religion coming after this guy too.

I won’t hold my breath:

The sexual harassment scandal that engulfed Fox News last year and led to the ouster of its chairman, Roger Ailes, continued to batter the network on Monday, as a new lawsuit described unwanted sexual advances by Mr. Ailes and two major advertisers pulled their spots from the show of its top-rated host, Bill O’Reilly.

Mercedes-Benz and Hyundai said they were withdrawing their ads from Mr. O’Reilly’s prime-time show, “The O’Reilly Factor,” after The New York Times published an investigation this weekend that found five women who made allegations of sexual harassment or inappropriate behavior against him. Those five women received settlements totaling about $13 million, The Times reported.

Red more HERE:

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/03/business/media/fox-news-roger-ailes-harassment-suit.html?smprod=nytcore-iphone&smid=nytcore-iphone-share&_r=0

Trending Towards Traditionalism?

 

The day when women create sperm and can impregnate men so that they can have babies, that is the day men and women will be equal. Until then, we will be different. Accept it and enjoy it.

We will always be different.

Or, like Stevie Wonder said many years ago:

Until the dolphin flies and parrots live at sea
Until we dream of life and life becomes a dream
Until the day is night and night becomes the day-
Until the trees and seas just up and fly away
Until the day that 8x8x8 is
Until the day that is the day that are no more-
Until the day the earth starts turning right to left-
Until the earth just for the sun denies itself
Until dear Mother Nature says her work is through

Always…

 

There is a new briefing paper out now by the Council on Contemporary Families by Joanna R. Pepin, Department of Sociology, University of Maryland and David A. Cotter, Professor of Sociology, Union College. 

In it, there are some very interesting discoveries about gender roles:

Back in the nineteenth century, as the worlds of “work” and “home” were increasingly spatially separated, a doctrine of “separate spheres” developed to ideologically justify, and reinforce, the division between the masculine public sphere and feminine private sphere. It is telling here that what was considered “work” included only that which took place in the public sphere—waged employment, politics and the like—excluding all of the labor that took place in the home. The tasks of caring for children and maintaining a household were seen as an extension of love and motherhood, with a built-in intrinsic reward for women. This “separate spheres” ideology experienced a resurgence in the post-WWII era and was the primary ideology against which the feminist movements of the 1960s and 1970s reacted.

But the question became what would replace that ideology? Some feminists pushed for a more androgynous conception of equality, disrupting beliefs about the oppositeness of men and women. In the 1980s and early 1990s, people seemed to be moving toward the idea that women and men could work equally well in both the public and private spheres. Yet the narrative that eventually emerged became a hybrid of the two approaches, promoting women’s choice to participate in either sphere while trying to equalize the perceived value of a home sphere that was still seen as distinctively female. The egalitarian essentialist perspective mixed values of equality (men and women should have equal opportunities, gender discrimination is wrong) alongside beliefs about the essential nature of men and women (men are naturally or inherently better suited to some roles and women to others).

The revised kind of egalitarianism that rapidly increased after 1994 is rooted in ideology compatible with American cultural ideals of individualism, beliefs associated more with the public sphere than rooted in families. Tellingly, the pattern of increased though incomplete equality in the workplace and persistent though lessened inequality at home is present not only in the realm of attitudes but also when we look at objective measures like occupational segregation and housework. The percentages of men and women who would have to change occupations for all occupations to have equal numbers of men and women declined from about two-thirds (64 percent) of workers in 1950 to about 50 percent by the 1990s, and has been stalled ever since (authors’ calculations from Census PUMS/ACS). Similarly, the gender gap in time spent in core housework activities (e.g., cooking, cleaning, laundry) steadily declined from the 1960s to the mid-1990s and then stagnated.

One possible reason egalitarian ideology is highly endorsed in the marketplace is that occupational segregation permits the embrace of equal opportunity ideals without challenging beliefs that men and women are innately and fundamentally different. Even though “a woman should have exactly the same job opportunities as a man,” women may be thought to choose different types of work because those occupations feel more consistent with their identity as women. The path to blending a belief in equality with a belief in inherent differences between men and women at home is less obvious, which may explain the return to non-egalitarian gender attitudes within families. For example, arriving at gender parity in time spent in housework may require redefining what counts as “men’s chores” and “women’s chores.” It is notable that most of the narrowing of differences in time spent on chores noted above came from reductions in women’s time spent on these tasks. Achieving equity within families requires men to take on tasks that are culturally devalued (cleaning, laundry, and to a lesser extent cooking). In other words, women entering the workforce felt they were gaining something valuable, just as fathers stepping up participation in parenting felt they were gaining something valuable, but everybody hates housework.

 

Read more HERE, HERE and HERE

Taco Thursday #cookingwithmykids

Focus. Concentration.
Cooking with my kids is one of the many things I love to do when I have them. Preparing dinner together, then enjoying the amazing food we make together.

Yesterday was taco Thursday. My son made the guacamole and my daughter made the chicken to put into the tacos.

Its great to see them become so interested in cooking and enjoying the process.

 

Dictators

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It’s truly amazing how many Americans and those who never lived under dictators LOVE the idea of them.

Americans love the “freedom” dictators bring but always overlook the atrocities and death dictators inevitably bring to those the people they rule over.

Good riddance to all dictators and the lies and destruction they leave in their wake.

There has never ever been a socialist/communist utopia.

Never…and there will never be one:

“Karl Marx was right, socialism works, it is just that he had the wrong species. Why doesn’t it work in humans? Because we have repro­ductive independence, and we get maximum Darwinian fitness by looking after our own survival and having our own offspring.”

Edward O. Wilson

 

 

 

Growing Kids

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My kids…growing and growing-and so is my love for them.

Fatherhood is truly an amazing experience. Watching my kids develop into a young man and woman is fascinating.
The time we spend every morning on the way to school is special to me.

I get to talk to them about what is going on and how they are feeling. I get to hear stories about their friends, their teachers and their classroom discussions.

We talk about current events and what might be happening that later on that day at school or after school. We also might discuss how excited they might be about their day or if they are terrified about what might happen.

The nonsense I had to endure in family court was worth every gray hair and green dollar bill I spent. If I didn’t fight the powers that be, I probably wouldn’t be able to take this photo.

I’m glad I can be with them almost every single day.

 

Power Concedes Nothing Without A Demand

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“Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will. Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them, and these will continue till they are resisted with either words or blows, or with both.”

Frederick Douglass from his August 3, 1857 “West India Emancipation” speech at Canandaigua, New York, on the twenty-third anniversary of the event.

 

STOP!

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I’ve learned many things over the past 8 years. One of the most valuable is knowing when to stop.

I’ve learned how to stop letting things into my life that will bring me more pain than pleasure. I’ve learned how to stop allowing people in my life who are filled with all kinds of pain. I don’t want their misery to infect my happiness. I’ve learned how to stop certain behaviors of mine that will bring me and others around me down. I have learned to say NO more often too.

It is a process, but once you know the triggers or the behaviors that are associated with pain and negativity, it becomes easier to get to the point where you can put an end to a downward spiral.

I have seen many friends and colleagues who are dealing with relationships that only bring them misery. I often ask them, “Why are you with ____?” They tend to beat around the bush with a response or clear answer, but after further reflection, they more often than not tell me that they don’t know why.

I was asked this same question from time to time about certain relationships I was in over the years. After my divorce, when I was “dating,” I would be with certain women and the people who were close to me asked me the same things I ask those who are in unbearable relationships. I had to do some deep thinking as well as some soul-searching and came to the conclusion that I no longer needed to continue on the path I was on with that particular woman because it really made no sense.

If the woman I was with had all kinds of qualities I wasn’t into, but the sex was great, I began to realize my long-term goals were not in line with my short-term goals. If I was with them for the sex but they wanted me for a potential spouse, I was wasting my time and theirs. It wasn’t fair to me or her to keep going.

I learned how to put a stop to any behavior that was going to take me off my path of being a great musician as well. Once I understood that I didn’t need to say yes to every gig and I could actually say NO, it was quite empowering. I not only said no, but I raised my rates. I got more work from higher paying employers and I haven’t looked back.

The same thought process also applied to anything that was going to prohibit me from being the parent I needed to be for my two children. I cut off all communication from anyone who had an interest in trying to limit the influence I had over my children.

Any person that comes into my life has to bring something to the table to enhance it, not make it worse. I have to remember to know my self-worth and cut the out the fat…and that I can say no. It becomes easier and easier the more I do it. It can work for you as well. 

Where is Emma Sulkowicz?

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Over the past few days walking around New York City I have begun to notice graduates of Columbia University. It seems like it is that time of year again where college kids actually go out into the real world. No more safe spaces, trigger warnings, Title IX kangaroo courts and no more walking around with mattresses for college credit. All of that stuff is in the past and these kids are supposedly ready to enter  real world.

I wonder how the “Mattress Girl” Emma Sulkowicz is holding up. Is she still making porn videos? Is she still holding onto her mattress?

Well, what I do know is that the dude who had to deal with the fallout from having sex with her isn’t giving up his fight. If my son were to ever go through what he went through, I’d be in court making sure someone pays for the nonsense he dealt with.

Just in case you didn’t know about Emma, she was a Columbia University student who accused her classmate Paul Nungesser of raping her in 2012. The university found him “not responsible” in a Title IX investigation. She eventually protested the decision by carrying around her mattress around the campus as part of a so-called “art project” titled Mattress Performance (Carry That Weight). She insisted on doing so until Paul was no longer on campus.

For some bizarre reason, she actually received academic credit for it. Paul maintained his innocence and later filed a lawsuit against Columbia, its president, Lee Bollinger, its trustees and art professor Jon Kessler in April of 2015. He alleged that the school violated Title IX, the federal law that prohibits sex-based discrimination in federally funded education.

The lawsuit was dismissed but he has filed a new suit claiming that since Columbia permitted Emma to publicly protest, even after they found him “not responsible” for sexual misconduct, the school violated his rights under Title IX but with a new complaint.

In a recent Newsweek article, they reported that Nungesser filed a new 100 page complaint stating that he was discriminated against because he is male. His complaint:

“urges the judge to consider “the case at hand if the genders were reversed,” and then proposes a scenario involving people named Paula and Emmet, with details mirroring what happened between Nungesser and Sulkowicz.

The new complaint also alleges that Columbia’s policies and practices “perpetuate the stereotype of the sex-driven male,” which violates Title IX. For example, the complaint says, Columbia’s policies include no examples of sexual violence involving a male victim and a female perpetrator, only female victims and male perpetrators, or gender-neutral victims and perpetrators.

Also, it says, all videos shown during a mandatory sexual respect program for students focused on “violence against women” and not gender-based violence more generally.

Further, the complaint alleges, the school’s sexual violence policies focus only on penetration as opposed to someone being “made to penetrate.”

I feel it is time for men on these college campuses to keep up the fight and use the law against those who feel it is supposed to protect only women. The law was written gender neutral and if there is discrimination in any form against any sex, the law has been violated.

Male students’ recent lawsuits against colleges have begun to gain some traction in recent months. There are cases in Washington and Lee University as well as Brown.

We’ll see what happens. I wish Mr. Nungesser well and hope that Emma isn’t living in the college fantasy world anymore. It’s time to end the madness on college campuses and we need to stamp out the government overreach and ideological fanaticism. It has gotten completely out of hand.

55 years of Marriage 

Today is my parents’ 55th wedding anniversary. They are the model for what long-term relationships are supposed to be. No marriage is perfect, but theirs seems like it has stood the test of time. I feel their partnership is what a good marriage can ultimately be. I certainly know what a bad marriage looks like, since I was once in one.

My parents are people who I still admire and look up to for all they have accomplished in their lives. It’s rare for people to be married as long as they have been. It is unfortunate our society doesn’t have more models like them to emulate.
55 years is a long time to be with one person. I don’t know how they did it but glad they are still alive and kicking. I’m also happy that they are still together for me, my two sisters and their grandkids.
Even though they will probably never see this post (since they aren’t on social media), and I’ve already spoken to them, Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad!

Donald Trump – The Miley Cyrus of Politics

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If you haven’t figured it out by now, you must not know how people manipulate the press in our country.

It is pretty apparent to me that Donald Trump will say anything so that his name will appear in the news and he will stay at the top of the polls. This is the same tactic that people like Miley Cyrus used a few years ago when she was breaking free of the Hanna Montana image and trying to be cool and relevant. She said the most outrageous things and had some of the most outlandish performances so that she could be one of the trending topics on a regular basis. It’s all a game and I think that many people do not understand how it is played until long after the flavor of the day is an afterthought.

When you have dozens of channels to choose on cable from and thousands of artists to sift through on Itunes or Spotify, you just can’t be good and get a following. In today’s world, there must be something else that grabs your attention to separate you from the others. Some choose to be truly unique and have great songs and a really different look (like Sia) and get the attention in a positive manner. Others choose to resort to the things that attract negative attention simply because they are vulgar, overly sexual, repulsive and just flat out ridiculous. The music or talent level be dammed.

When you have what seems like 3,234 GOP candidates running for office, it seems like in order to pimp the media, you have to find a way to stand out. I don’t see why it is so hard to be unique with the pack of buffoons the GOP is allowing to stand up and represent their party, but hey, I guess making sense and having clear, reasonable policy positions isn’t good enough in 2016. With this many people running for the same office, it seems as if the easiest way to make yourself look different is to use the same techniques Miley used.

The next time you hear Donald Trump speak, he will talk about how he is leading in certain polls, how he is selling merchandise, the way he is trademarking this or that. He is a true salesman and is simply selling his brand. He has no intention of being president because he knows his rhetoric will not be able to stand up to any sort of scrutiny. He is bombastic because he knows that when he says outrageous things, he will have his brand being mentioned in every major media outlet in the world.

I think it’s interesting to watch the reactions of people after he opens up his mouth. Why do people say they are “scared” or they find him “scary”? I don’t get it. Scared of what? He has no way to effect public policy, he has no intention of being anywhere near local, state or national political office – and oh yeah, he will never, ever be president. He appeals to those who are generally not intelligent enough to see thorough his game. He is the ultimate pimp.

Enjoy the freak show for another couple of months. No need to be scared. He will go back to doing whatever he did prior to his presidential bid eventually. I guarantee it.

American Men Have No Reproductive Rights

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An excerpt:

Our society is not encouraged to overcome the stereotypes that ridicule men. This may be part of a strategy. Those who wish to put down men with old-fashioned stereotypes, such as that men only want women for one thing and will readily engage in the sex act with any stranger, may be putting men down just so they will lose children in divorce court and have to pay. This brings up an interesting point: while the nation is encouraged to dismiss stereotypes about women, such as that they cannot make responsible decisions or hold demanding executive jobs, when it comes to reproductive rights the stereotypes that men can’t control their sexual impulses and that they should have to pay for everything are stereotypes that are reinforced and perpetrated with glee.

The stereotypes against men merely serve to deprive them of reproductive rights. Women are not naturally better at nurturing, we are told. This stereotype is refuted to support the idea that there is no reason that married men can’t help take care of the kids. But judges usually think children are better off with their mothers. Unless, of course, the man who wants custody is in a same-sex marriage and wants to adopt. Then, somehow, a nurturing male is a possibility that should be seriously defended.

Another major stereotype that interferes with men’s reproductive rights is that men are naturally violent. This enables judges to quickly approve of “temporary restraining orders” and “orders of protection” against husbands. All the wife has to do is allege in court that she is “afraid” that the husband may strike her. And this TRO is granted even if the husband has absolutely no history of violence.

These three stereotypes, that 1) men don’t want to take care of children and are only interested in sex, 2) that men are defined by society as the wage earners, and 3) that men are naturally prone to domestic violence, are used by women and their lawyers to continue the abuse of fathers and deprive them of the affection of their children. In brief, men are selfish, violent, uncaring brutes naturally unfit to be fathers. How convenient to the family court system, and to women who want custody and the house.

And women complain that they alone have to battle against stereotypes. The anti-father stereotypes don’t matter as long as the stereotypes are used to get custody of the children, monthly child support, alimony checks, and the house to the ex-wife.

Read more: http://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2015/08/american_men_have_no_reproductive_rights.html#ixzz3ihs6RTVC
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How Can Twins Have Two Different Fathers?

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An excerpt from this article: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/08/nyregion/paternity-case-for-a-new-jersey-mother-of-twins-bears-unexpected-results-two-fathers.html

A mother of twins was applying for public assistance in Passaic County, N.J., when she made the seemingly uncontroversial claim that one man was responsible for her progeny.

The truth, it turns out, was not so simple.

In an unusual ruling in State Superior Court in Passaic County, Judge Sohail Mohammed found that egg and sperm had colluded to create a medical oddity, according to a report in The New Jersey Law Journal on Thursday. The man who the woman said was the father of her twins was deemed responsible for only one.

The other, the ruling revealed, was conceived during a previously undisclosed tryst that happened within a week of sexual intercourse with the man she claimed was the father.

It was a tangled web of love and biology that gave rise to what The Law Journal called a precedent-setting ruling, one of only a few of such cases across the country. The man originally described as the twins’ father, identified in court documents only as A.S., will now have to pay child support only for the toddler who a DNA test showed was reliably his own.

The case took root when the mother, identified only as T.M., told the Passaic County Board of Social Services in the course of applying for benefits that A.S., her romantic partner, had fathered her twins, The Law Journal reported. The board, in turn, filed an application to establish his paternity and force him to pay child support for the twins, born in January 2013.

But the woman’s claim slowly fell apart. She revealed in testimony that she had had sex with a second, unidentified man within a week of having sex with her romantic partner. A paternity test was ordered.

And when the results came back last November, a routine case became a curiosity destined for legal textbooks.

Judge Mohammed accepted the results after testimony from Karl-Hans Wurzinger, the laboratory director of the Identity Testing Division at Laboratory Corporation of America, The Law Journal reported. Dr. Wurzinger, who has published a study saying that one in 13,000 reported paternity cases involved twins with separate fathers, testified that this was one of those rare cases: The woman’s twins were fertilized by different fathers during the same menstrual cycle.

Jennifer Wu, an obstetrician-gynecologist at Lenox Hill Hospital in Manhattan, called it a case of superfecundation, a rare phenomenon classically illustrated in medical textbooks with a black baby and a white baby who are twins.

A sperm can be viable for up to five days, Dr. Wu said. So if the mother in this case had sex with one of the men, ovulated, and then had sex with the other — all within the course of just under a week — one man’s sperm could have fertilized one egg, while the other’s fertilized another.

Read the rest here: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/08/nyregion/paternity-case-for-a-new-jersey-mother-of-twins-bears-unexpected-results-two-fathers.html