Yoga pants are not a civil right

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Kirsten Powers writes something smart in the USA Today about the so-called ban on yoga pants at Haven Middle School in Evanston, Il.

This is what feminism has come to: fighting for the right to wear yoga pants and leggings to middle school. This pressing civil rights issue made headlines when girls in Evanston, Ill., protested rules that they said banned the bum-hugging clothing for creating classroom distractions.

A feminist flash mob attacked Haven Middle School for shaming girls and promotingrape culture. Eliana Dockterman wrote in Time that the school’s argument “is not that distant from the arguments made by those who accuse rape victims of asking to be assaulted by dressing a certain way.”

Actually, it’s a universe away.

Rape is a physical attack and a crime. Pubescent boys noticing girls’ bottoms is neither. Still, two parents wrote to the school asserting, “We really hope that you will consider the impact of these policies and how they contribute to rape culture.” A feminist writer tweeted, “#RapeCultureIsWhen we tell 13-year-old girls they can’t wear leggings because it’s ‘distracting’ to the boys.”

Haven’s administrators say they never claimed that the form-fitting pants were distracting to boys, though they surely are. An Evanston parent reported that the principal told her the school was merely “trying to figure out a way to tamp down the sexualization of middle-school girls.” Isn’t that a goal feminists support?

Instead, they react as if the school mandated burqas for all girls. It turns out that there was no “ban.” It was actually a policy that leggings must be covered with a shirt that is “fingertip length.” Oh, the inhumanity.

Needless to say, the sisterhood was not sated. Feminist website Jezebel asked why “the solution is to make girls cover up instead of … teaching boys to not be gross sexist pigs?” This echoed Dockterman’s complaint that “we tell women to cover themselves … but we neglect to tell the boys to look at something else.”

Let’s remember, we are talking about 13-year-old boys. Adult women have transformed children into monsters merely for finding the contours of a girl’s body attractive. The only people being shamed here are the boys. Their crime is being human.

This isn’t the first time pants created controversy. In 2013, Kenilworth Junior High School in Petaluma, Calif., banned “too tight” pants. According to a local news report, a mother wore skinny jeans in solidarity with her daughter declaring, “Boys need to be taught to respect women no matter what they’re wearing.” But a boy noticing a girl in body-hugging pants is not disrespectful. Nor is it something he needs to — or can — unlearn.

The professional feminists look at middle school and see 13-year-old male oppressors dominating in the battle of the sexes. School administrators see what’s actually there: children. Haven Middle School appears to be trying to create the best possible learning environment during a critical transition period in kids’ lives. Good for them.

Read more HERE

An 8th Grader, a Gun and a Bus Rider in the Way

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“Some may do it because they don’t have that leadership at home, and they just want to have people around that they feel comfortable with.”

This kind of stuff has been happening for decades. It is a sad truth that few want to acknowledge or point out.

The first question I had when I read this was, “where is the kid’s father?” Check. He has one. Does he live in the same house? Nope. I’m curious as to WHY?

It’s not the sole reason for widespread violence among young black men but fatherlessness is one of the biggest contributing factors.

The Moynihan Report pointed it out in the mid 60’s.

This is yet another sad story of a good kid getting caught up in our prison system. Let’s not forget about the person who got killed for just walking down the street! Sad all around. But let’s not look for the government to fix this. They can’t. It’s up to us to do the work it takes to change things.

From the New York Times:

Kahton Anderson had all the status symbols a 14-year-old in his world could want: Air Jordans and Reeboks, sometimes a new pair every month. Name-brand sports clothes. A new PlayStation 4.

And, lately, a silver .357 revolver.

The gun flashed recently at rush hour on the B15 bus, crossing from Clinton Hill to Bedford-Stuyvesant, in Brooklyn, when Kahton fired toward another teenager, the police said, instead striking a 39-year-old man on his way home. The man died soon after. Though Kahton had not yet graduated from middle school, he was taller than the detective escorting him out of the local precinct house.

Read the rest of story HERE

Why Is Discussion of Boys and Men Opposed?

An excerpt from this article: http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/why-is-discussion-of-boys-and-men-opposed/?utm_source=feedly&utm_reader=feedly&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=why-is-discussion-of-boys-and-men-opposed

This past week Professor Janice Fiamengo of the University of Ottawa was heckled (at Queens University) and, the next night, forced to stop speaking (at the University of Ottawa) because of the topic of her lecture: boys and men in contemporary society. Why is the topic considered dangerous enough to be met by violent protesters?

I can think of topics that are supportive of, say, racism or anti-semitism being protested, given the history of harm done to racial and ethnic groups. But such talks would most certainly not be about promoting such attitudes and would most likely take up the history of such attitudes. I can also think of lectures on topics such as pro-abortion being anticipated with angry protests against the practice being promoted. But in a university setting, it is never or should never be a matter of promoting any attitude or practice (except, perhaps, being open to every topic for discussion). At universities, every topic must be open for discussion. This is what makes the university different from a soap-box or a political speech: any topic, no matter how difficult to consider, must be allowed to be openly presented for discussion and debate, without worry that the speaker will be shouted down or prevented from speaking. The university extracurricular lecture format has traditionally provided for this. Of course, no one is required to attend such a lecture.

Now consider the topic of boys and men as such: male studies and why they are needed. Why is the topic opposed? What are the psychological reasons for individuals to pre-empt discussion of the topic? Why may it not even be broached without a speaker being insulted, jeered at, or the event cancelled because the safety of attendees becomes an issue (when a fire alarm is set off, although there is no fire.)

My question is, Why does the topic itself, Boys and Men, cause individuals to attend an event that promises to deal with the topic in order to ensure that the topic cannot be discussed? Why are individuals drawn to places where they will be made angry? Or if they are already angry, what sort of anger wants to have its heat further inflamed? What sort of individual hate needs public demonstration?

These kinds of events only further cement my resolve to dismantle radical gender feminism. This first time I was exposed to this cult was when Warren Farrell was holding a speech and was being protested. Read about that HERE. I was appalled and couldn’t believe what I was seeing. It’s truly amazing to actually see how horrible these people are.

I cannot have my children growing up in a society where this ideology persists. I cannot have my son attend a university where he is feared just because he is male and is supposed to be taught how NOT to rape. I cannot have my daughter grow up hating men simply because they are born male. I already know she sees the positive role model in me and I refuse to have her growing up thinking all men are part of this imaginary system they call patriarchy. I am going to teach my son and daughter how to see through their ideology. Radical gender feminism is truly hateful and destructive to modern male female relationships, the family and our future as a country.

“Education is best served when the whole range of ideas are presented to the person and the individual is allowed to make up his or her own mind, and that individual is given the tools with which to make that decision – in other words, an ideal educational situation would give a student the criteria by which to judge……and then that student or that adult need never fear exposure to any idea because that person will be able to sort the data out” – Frank Zappa

Watch it HERE. Start at 28 minutes:

 

The Independent Thinker

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I won’t react to something just because I’m supposed to, because I’m an African-American,” he said. “That argument doesn’t make any sense to me. So we want to advance as a society and a culture, but, say, if something happens to an African-American we immediately come to his defense? Yet you want to talk about how far we’ve progressed as a society? Well, we’ve progressed as a society, then don’t jump to somebody’s defense just because they’re African-American. You sit and you listen to the facts just like you would in any other situation, right? So I won’t assert myself.” – Kobe Bryant

I TOTALLY agree with him.

I was raised in the burbs, went to an HBCU, came out as militant and as radically left wing as I could be, had two BEAUTIFUL kids with a half white/Iranian woman, and know more about Negro history and culture than most. After my horrendous experience in family court, I saw how the court system of “justice” really works, and started down the path of where I am now. I am more and more conservative each day and feel that no one can, or needs to put me in a box. We all don’t think alike.

I am certainly an independent and you won’t see me cheering for any team – especially one that takes Negroes for granted (democrats)

 

Read more HERE

WAR ON WOMEN – Ooops! What? It’s not true?

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It appears that journalists are now too lazy to make up their own stories and are filing reports based on Facebook memes.

The Story of a Non-Story

How a bunch of media outlets got their coverage of an obscure Massachusetts bill really, really wrong.

An excerpt from this article: http://www.bostonmagazine.com/news/blog/2014/03/24/non-story-massachusetts-divorce-sex-in-house-bill/

This lengthy and meandering tale is ultimately about nothing, but along the way might prove instructive for anyone wondering why so many people walk around with their heads filled with a vast, expanding trove of untrue nonsense.

I begin at the end—or, more accurately, at the point when I stopped merely rolling my eyes at this episode and wanted to start strangling people. That point was Sunday afternoon, when a news item appeared on Boston.com, declaring that Republican Richard Ross of Wrentham has filed a bill to prohibit someone who is going through a divorce from having sex in his or her own home.

As I began writing this Monday morning, that article (written by a Boston.com staffer with a Globe.com email address, and with a Globe Newspaper Company copyright, for whatever that currently means) offered no source, citation, link, or hint of any kind suggesting that it was cribbed from someone else’s reporting—it appears, as written, to be the original discovery of reporter Jack Pickell. That would be some mighty coincidence, that he stumbled upon the same obscure, dormant bill that had by chance been repeatedly posted about and spread across the internet for the previous 48 hours.

In fact, the original version of Pickell’s story did reference and link to a BostInno article posted Friday afternoon. When someone sent an email to Pickell alerting him of an error he had inserted while lifting the item, Pickell corrected the mistake, but also removed the BostInno reference and link. (Clarification: I did not intend to imply that Boston.com removed the link to BostInno deliberately to avoid giving credit. Also, I should not have used the word “lifted,” which implies something stronger than I intended.)

Boston.com is hardly alone, however, in offering no indication of prior origin of the story. BostInno provides no clue that I can find for its discovery, although its post appeared, surely not by coincidence, a few hours after the first report that caused me to eyeroll as it crossed my Twitter feed around midday Friday. Three days later and no hint of provenance accompanied the reporting of the story early Monday morning on MSNBC, in between items on Nate Silver’s Senate predictions and Jimmy Kimmel’s interview with the Clinton family.

Before continuing back toward the story’s point of origin, I want to clear up some things about the bill that can be misunderstood by those who make no effort to determine whether they are understanding them correctly.

Contrary to what you might gather from phrases such as “proposed by state Senator Richard Ross,” “Senator Richard J. Ross proposed,” and “If Massachusetts State Sen. Richard J. Ross gets his way,” Ross did not sponsor the bill, and he does not support it. In fact, the bill has no legislative sponsors, no support, and is in no way under consideration by anybody.

The bill was submitted under the Commonwealth’s “right of free petition” by Robert LeClair, an 83-year-old former Wrentham selectman of strong opinions, who was president for years of an organization devoted to fathers and custody rights. Massachusetts, with its nearly 400-year devotion to self-governance, populist energy, and participatory citizenship—many towns still decide things by show of hands at meetings open to all residents—is unsurprisingly one of the few states that offers its citizens a direct avenue to submit legislation for consideration. The only barrier is that a state legislator must actually file the paperwork, but that does not constitute or indicate sponsorship, support, or approval. From what I gather checking around with some current and former staffers, many legislators aren’t even aware that they are allowed to deny a citizen petition request; others are aware but choose a blanket policy of approving all constituents who petition. “Whenever I receive a bill from a citizen, I will file the bill,” state senator Will Brownsberger, co-chairman of the Joint Judiciary Committee, tells me. “I don’t think that most legislators see themselves as a gateway for those.”

To do otherwise would be dumb politics as well as a thumb in old John Adams’s eye. These petitions—a bunch of which get dropped every two years before the session’s January filing deadline—are usually brought by people with exceptional zeal and energy for an idea that they can’t find anyone on Beacon Hill to support. So, there’s no possibility that filing the bill could somehow accidentally lead to its passage, but significant likelihood that the petitioner could be a real pain in the ass to a hometown rep who refused to honor the people’s sacred right to petition their government.

Nevertheless, some—including Ross, according to the reporter who got this all going (and who we’ll get to below)—might pick and choose which to file, based on some standard of merit. That’s problematic: It could imply considered support of those chosen over those rejected, which is exactly the case being made by some, including Ross’s Democratic challenger Dylan Hayre, after Ross’s office made clear that he merely filed the petition for LeClair but does not support it.

Not that the misperception of Ross’s support is even close to catching up with the erroneous reports. As I am finishing this post around noon, Boston.com has added a correction noting, without explanation, that the article failed to mention that Ross filed the bill by request. Other reports have continued to pile up all morning; some, like FoxBoston, are passing along Ross’s insistence that he doesn’t support the bill (he put out a release this morning, as I wrote this post); others not so much, as with a Reason.com piece blaming Ross for this “particularly egregious example of politicians’ overreach and arrogance.”

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On the grand scale of legislative proposals, concern about a spouse exposing children to adulterous behavior in their home is not a particularly looney tunes idea. Adultery remains illegal in many states, after all. More relevantly, it’s not uncommon in divorce proceedings for the spouse who has moved out—usually the husband—to ask the judge to prohibit the other spouse, pending finalization of the divorce, from bringing dates home and/or having them spend the night when the kids are there. Some father’s-rights advocates in the Commonwealth believe that Massachusetts judges are far more likely than those elsewhere to deny such requests, because as secular liberal Harvard elitists they are unbothered by (I’m paraphrasing here) someone’s wife whoring around, in his bed, in the house he’s paying for, in front of his kids. LeClair’s bill would restore balance by setting the default to “no whoring around,” and placing the burden on the wife to get the judge to issue an exemption.

That is not exactly LeClair’s argument, to be fair. He believes, rightly or wrongly, that his bill would reduce domestic violence—the topic of a book he has recently finished writing, and hopes to shop to a publisher. “A male seeing another male in his house, with his wife, in front of his kids,” is likely to end badly, LeClair says.

Read the rest HERE

Obama Cares

This is someone off topic for me since my blog is dedicated towards fatherhood and issues surrounding men and boys in our new millennium…but…I have some thoughts.

So I heard 30 million were supposedly uninsured a few years ago. 5 million are enrolled (supposedly). Are the other 25 million going to pay the penalty, I mean, TAX?

Somebody came up with a great name but I’m not sure how affordable this care really is. The premiums are REALLY expensive (unless you get a 1 year rebate from the Feds). Are these subsidies permanent or based on your income each year? Why is you health insurance tied to how much you make and not your physical condition and risk?

There was plenty of opposition and lawsuits but the act is still in place. The longer it is a law, the more it seems to be dismantled bit by bit.

Delays, exemptions for certain businesses, unions don’t have to worry for a few years, website issues, incredibly complex applications, confusing subsidies, delays, delays, delays and misleading messages from the leader of the free world.

If I were a Republican, I’d be quiet and I’d be salivating when election time rolls around. Let these people hang themselves. Poor Democrats.

Didn’t anyone think this through?

Someone please explain what I’m missing or don’t get. I’ve been trying to understand but it’s not making any sense.