When people make comments from time to time about men being bitter about their ex, I wonder how these people would feel if they were on the short end of the divorce stick.
How would these people feel if they spent thousands of dollars battling the sub-human people in family court just for the right to see their own flesh and blood? I wonder how these people would feel after they realized that no matter how hard they’ve tried, they still have to pay the state money that has accrued interest. How would they feel if a magistrate told them that they were only allowed to see their children 4 days out of each month? Maybe they would be bitter too?
When I read about situations where and ex-wife of someone famous gets awarded a settlement and then chooses to give away millions to a charity, I question it. I ask, “Was it her money?” Did Amber Herd earn that money or did she get it from Johnny Depp’s hard work over the years? When I hear about stories where a mother takes a couple’s child overseas and does all kinds of horrific things to block the father from seeing his own child, I don’t think it is bitter to say that she is a horrible human. I think it is just honest. When I read stories of fathers who have spent tens, if not hundreds of thousands of dollars fighting for shared parenting and sometimes not getting anything, it’s not bitter when I say that the court system is biased towards mothers, it is the truth.
When people talk about how Donald Trump is a narcissistic, misogynistic, sociopath, they would probably just say they are telling it like it is. When fathers say that family court is a radical feminist rat-hole, filled with incompetent man hating idiots hell-bent on destroying families one child at a time, it’s not bitter, it’s just the truth. When men comment on how some women use all kinds of excuses to look like victims to get the upper hand in the “family” court system, I’d say that they are telling the truth as they see it and have lived it and not being bitter.
The problem with being bitter is when you hold on to that resentment and never channel the frustration into something positive. It can be toxic. I’ve learned to turn a bad situation into something good. I’ve been able to help others who have been in a similar situation as mine. I’ve talked to dozens of men, and several women about their divorces. My advice has seemed to help them get to a similar place as myself.
I once was bitter. There is no question about that. Shortly after my divorce, I was quite angry about my predicament even though I came out of my settlement with a pretty sweet deal. I must say, I have never been happier than I am now. I have a great girlfriend and share my kids equally with my ex…and don’t pay her a dime. Yessir! But, I am not afraid to bite my tongue when it comes to certain issues. I will call out people on their nonsense from time to time. If you think I’m bitter, you are sadly mistaken.
I’m better. I’m stronger. I’m confident. I’m assertive.
Don’t mistake telling my truth about divorce and the evil the man-haters over in family court for bitterness. It is just plain factual.
Maybe those who claim that certain men are bitter need to step in our shoes for a while. Maybe you’ll understand.