Why Young Men Are Giving Up On Marriage


Suzanne Venker’s article, “The War on Men,” which appeared on the website of Fox News in late November, has become a lodestone for feminist writers who have attacked her position that the institution of marriage is threatened, not enhanced, by the supposed gains of the feminist movement over the last 50 years.

“Where have all the good (meaning marriageable) men gone?” is a question much talked about lately in the secular media, Venker says, but her answer, backed up by statistics, is not to the liking of mainstream commentators influenced by feminism.

She points out that for the first time in US history, the number of women in the workforce has surpassed the number of men, while more women than men are acquiring university degrees.

“The problem? This new phenomenon has changed the dance between men and women,” Venker wrote. With feminism pushing them out of their traditional role of breadwinner, protector and provider – and divorce laws increasingly creating a dangerously precarious financial prospect for the men cut loose from marriage – men are simply no longer finding any benefit in it.

As a writer and researcher into the trends of marriage and relationships, Venker said, she has “accidentally stumbled upon a subculture” of men who say “in no uncertain terms, that they’re never getting married.”

A comment that was posted on this article sums up many things for me. This commenter goes a little further than I would, but he does make some interesting points. Read this and you come away with a better understanding as to why men act the way we do in the new millennium:

A comment by spookymulder8: There are many factors. While the Feminist doctrine has marginalized good men, it has also created a culture where more young men are inclined to see women as merely objects for sex in much the same way hardcore militant feminism taught many young women to be independent and see men as only necessary for breeding. No doubt this has been passed on to a younger generation of men who likewise will also be indoctrinated to see women as only necessary for sexual pleasure and who only expect the same from them, because marriage and the patriarchial responsibilities of it are no longer acceptable in the modernist world.

But good men who understand this are also discouraged. Divorce makes many men worried about ever getting into a relationship. Boys increasingly raised in a society where marriages break down are unlikely to think it’s worth the trouble. Ridiculous laws in divorce cases that favor women and make men slaves to courtroom declarations where their wealth is given to the woman who also gets full custody of the children is also very worrisome regardless of the circumstances. Men are no longer guaranteed their offspring. Men are increasingly told they have no say if the woman wants to abort their children.

Marriage itself is constantly becoming more meaningless. Pornography is increasingly rampant in destroying the bonds between men and women. And as society breaks down it creates uncertainty about the future with regards to the world we live in and would bring children into and economically depressing, that even otherwise men inclined to be responsible are put off from ever getting married because the future looks bleak.

Turning this around requires a return to the patriarchy, and proper institution of marriage and respect for sex within marriage. By containing the power of sex within marriage under the patriarchy, it forces men to improve themselves and become responsible patriarchs before even entering in marriage. The Patriarchy and institution of marriage therefore utilized men’s sex drives in a positive way to createa nd build a stable society. And patriarchial rights and the permanence of the marriage relationship without divorce maintained this stability. Patriarchies also have the added benefit of protecting women. No man could take advantage of a girl for sex. Today a man could court your 14 year old ddaughter and so long as he gets legal ‘consent’ he can have sex with her, privately get her pregnancy aborted at Planned Parenthood, then dump her. Parents can’t do anything. Under a patriarchy, no man could even consider courting a girl without going through her father first. If he dared to, then he would have violated the patriarch’s right (A daughter was considered legal property of the father for this reason, not because women are the lesser of men), and justice would have been severe.

However Hollywood and liberalism have painted a distorted view of the patriarchial system by focusing on ways it can be abused, much like hos they have demonized men to seem like drunken monsters despite the reality. In many ways women were even happier having the freedom to do what they wanted within the family and raise children while the men worked. Feminism was initially promoted as a ‘Sleeping Beauty Feminism’ doctrine that encouraged women to be more independent and enter the workforce as if they were wasting their abilities by being homemakers. This approach completely failed with women who were overall happy with their situation. It wasn’t until Feminism was pushed as the ‘Suffering Saints Faminism’ where the campaign focused on those women who were abused by demonic men that feminism finally started to take hold. It was all in how you frame it. There were plenty of legitimate reasons for the Women’s Rights movement in the modern era. However Feminism isn’t the same thing. It merely piggybacked on women’s rights. Many Christian women in the Women’s Rights movement only wanted accomodations to be made in the absence of men to prevent themselves being taken advantage of and to have their say in government policy through voting etc. Even the Old Testament laws make accomodations for women who find themselves without a husband for various circumstances who were in danger of losing their rightful priveledges. Feminism on the other hand was primarily driven by Communists who wished to make women workers subservient to the State contributing to production and consumerism. Basically cogs in the machine. The Church, Family, children and patriarchs and Marriage stood in the way. So these had to be destroyed so that the people would depend on the state and work for the benefit of the state. That is feminism’s origin. The rise of feminism and increased socialism and communism and practical atheism is all part and parcel of everything we observe happening around us.

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